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My newborn son and his Grandma January 1986Even though legalization is right around the corner, many women today are afraid to talk to their doctors about cannabis use while they are pregnant.  There was a study done in Jamaica that shows it is certainly not harmful.  We also have new information that shows that mothers' milk contains cannabinoids.  Each of us need to decide whether or not to talk to our doctors about our cannabis consumption; it is a very personal decision.  Here's what happened to me.

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As cannabis becomes more acceptable worldwide, and we see the evils of prohibition dying a slow and painful death, there are still people who want to pretend they are morally superior to those they might consider to be "weed parents." These folks have likely been sold a bill of goods regarding cannabis use, and have fallen for the stereotypical stoner banter that has infected our society due to decades of misinformation and lies. They may want to look down their nose at you because you enjoy weed, and they may even not want their spoiled brats to play with your kids any more, as a result. 

Our conditioning over the decades of criminal prohibition has resulted in most folks being shy, or hiding, their affinity for pot. It is natural for many to fall into the trap of feeling ashamed because we like weed. We have been told for so long that we are bad people and (gasp) criminals, that we are inclined to accept these criticisms and not stand our ground on the issue. 

Well....times they are a changin.'

As parents, I do believe cannabis gives us a moral higher ground (pun intended). I believe the days of being secretive about our love for the weed are over. I think we can begin to stand up loud and proud, and not only be forthcoming about our cannabis use- but also be proud of it. 

First and foremost, cannabis IS a safer alternative. So by choosing to use cannabis over one of the more dangerous alternatives, like booze or some pill, is a smart and responsible choice for you to make as a parent. Anyone who has had one too many drinks and have done something regrettable cannot deny that there are real dangers to alcohol consumption. Ask a parent, if their kid was sleeping over at your house, would they rather you drink a bottle of wine to relax, or smoke a little joint? Any parent who has a brain will deduct that your being drunk is a much larger risk to their child being under your supervision than if you puffed some herb. 

We have NOTHING to be ashamed of. Parents who choose cannabis are good parents who likely are more relaxed, creative, and understanding than parents who choose other methods of "taking the edge off." I have never been "out of control" or "irresponsible" due to my using cannabis. My use of it enhances my life in so many great ways, from the movies I watch to the food I eat. Smoking some pot helps me to explore parts of my creative side that I would not even know existed if it were not for the mind expanding capabilities of this safe and enjoyable plant. Weed is not only safe, it can also be very helpful in making a complex world less burdensome. 

I am tired of the ridiculous lies and exaggerations that our society has created around cannabis use. The idea that weed makes a person lazy and stupid is just not founded in any sort of truth. Just this morning I was watching an episode of Morning Joe on MSNBC and had to hear the right-leaning and elitist pundit Joe Scarborough say, "Pot makes you dumb." Right after making this bold assertion. Scarborough admits he has never even tried cannabis, and after being prodded admits that alcohol makes people dumb too. The funny part is that Scarborough always likes to brag about the music he listens to and play some killer grooves for his intros and breaks. Does he know that the "dumb people" who write those songs most all used pot to enhance their creativity, thus allowing them to make those songs he claims loves so much? Stupid stoners...

But these are the misconceptions we face. It is up to us as parents to shift this paradigm. We have to stand proud of our cannabis use and not shy away from having that conversation. we must address it head on, and I am not even above taking a little elitist position of our own to make our point. Why can't we look down our nose at parents who drink or who use pills? Mostly because we are not rude and choose not to interfere on other's lifestyle choices. But if I were, as a parent who solely uses cannabis, I think I am a better parent than those who solely use booze. Sorry. I am passing judgement. Weed makes me a more thoughtful and introspective person. Booze makes most people irresponsible, lowers their inhibitions, and skews their moral compass. Weed just does not do that. I will take hungry and laughing over stumbling and slurring your speech on any day.

But I am not trying to create a divide. I am just demanding equality and respect. I know plenty of parents who drink and are great parents. I know parents that use anti-anxiety medicines effectively to help them get through their day, and it does not make them a bad parent. Just like my choice to use cannabis does not make me a bad parent. There are good and bad parents in all walks of life, and even that is relative to who you are and what your values are.

Being a WEED PARENT though is something that is an evolving deal. We have to recondition our society to think differently. We have to show by real life example that weed parents are awesome. We must embrace our future and work towards ending the stigmas associated with cannabis users. We like weed and we are good parents. Anything else is unacceptable.

A Special Cleaning Tip


As parents, we often struggle to find time for household chores.  None of us really have a minute for those little complications that come from being so busy - like burning a pot that got left on a hot stove.  Here's a tip I discovered after a little sativa on a house-cleaning day.  Article was originally published at on April 1, 2013.  It works!

Cannabis Oil Dosing For Children & Beginners
I am asked regularly about how to best establish a safe and therapeutic dosing regimen for a pediatric cannabis patient. After much trial and error, information from many reliable sources and research- I feel I can give a good recommendation on where to start. 
To start: 1 gram of Cannabis oil should be mixed into 20 grams of organic, cold pressed, virgin coconut oil.
Mixing can be done in a very efficient and easy manner. Warm your coconut oil on low heat, coconut oil has a low melting point of 76 degrees, therefore, medium or high heat is unnecessary. When the oil is in a liquid state, draw it up into two 10ml oral syringes. This will give you 20 grams of ready to use coconut oil. 
Squeeze the coconut oil into a small canning jar that is resting in water over low heat. From the syringe of Cannabis oil, (Most commonly Cannabis oil comes pre-packaged in 3.5ml - 10ml oral syringes) inject 1ml or 1cc into the liquid coconut oil. Stir for a few moments over low heat, when the coconut oil is fully saturated with the Cannabis oil, the mixture will become a light green. This is when the cannabinoids bind to the fats of the coconut oil. Fill a clean 10ml oral syringe with the CannaCoco combination.
IMG_0834This dilution would give a ratio of 1/20g- or .05g or 50mg cannabis oil per gram of mixed coconut oil. Essentially this almost nullifies the chances of an "overdose" where the undesirable effects of cannabis could potentially appear.  This overdose is not harmful in anyway or toxic, however very uncomfortable for an inexperienced patient.
A double '00’ capsule holds approximately one full gram of oil- fill the capsule and take this dose twice daily; Once in the morning, once in the evening. This will give approximately .1g of cannabis oil daily. Continue this routine until either a noticeable tolerance is established or you feel ready to increase your dosing, preferably at one week.
The second week or when ready, reduce the dilution to 1/10g by mixing 1g cannabis oil into 10g coconut oil. This will safely up the dosing to .1g or 100mg cannabis per gram of oil; introducing more therapeutic cannabinoids to the system. This dose taken twice a day this would increase saturation to .2g or 200mg of cannabis oil a day! This is putting you well on your way to a gram or more of cannabis oil a day!
Continue reducing the dilution and increasing cannabis intake steadily over the next two weeks- within the first month 1 gram a day of Cannabis oil should be tolerable and consumed to promote a complete saturation treatment. Do not restrict the patient to one gram a day if afflicted with a severe condition, many successful cannabis oil stories involve consuming 2+ grams a day for an extended period of time.

Homemade capsules containing a Cannabis oil extract have successfully helped Mykayla Comstock, 7, of Pendleton, OR. USA treat her acute t-cell lymphoblastic leukemia. With her blood cell counts returned to normal, Comstock is not hospitalized like many ca
This dosing schedule does not have to apply strictly to pediatric patients, but could also be used to begin cannabinoid therapy on novice adults, elderly, and infirm patients. Coconut oil is not the only medium that can be used, olive oil, grapeseed oil, hemp oil and others have also been successfully used to infuse and dilute cannabis oil for dosing. I always recommend avoiding the use of GMO vegetable oils such as soy, corn, canola and general vegetable oil. 

I recommend infusing Cannabis oil into Coconut oil for the added dietary benefits,
which can be found here.
Good Luck!


Originally posted on CannaDad's Blog

Your Kids Will Not Start Smoking Pot Because Celebrities Do



Lately, there has been a lot of kerfuffle about celebrities and pop stars who publicly demonstrate their support of cannabis use.  Lady Gaga smoked onstage. Rihanna wears her approval on her clothing. Justin Bieber had pictures ”leaked” of him smoking a blunt. Parents are outraged because they think these artists paint a bad example for their children.  They are afraid their children will become drooling dope fiends because they listen to these artists’ music and idolize them in that way only prepubescent tweens can.

“Parents are outraged because they are afraid their children will become drooling dope fiends because they listen to these artists’ music and idolize them in that way only prepubescent tweens can.”

I beg to differ.  Flash back to the late ’60′s and early ’70′s, when I was a teenage girl.  The Beatles had just taken their Magical Mystery Tour. According to mom, the Rolling Stones looked like a bunch of hoodlums and Janis Joplin was clearly braless as she cavorted on stage with a joint and a bottle of whiskey in hand.  Oh yeah, and let’s not forget Woodstock, where Country Joe McDonald shouted at us all to give him an “F.”  The point is, with each generation there are pop stars who push the envelope of non-conformity and dare us to look at the world differently.  They are artists, musicians and performers, NOT role models, and certainly not responsible for my decisions about drug use in my youth.

Did I idolize them and did I have pictures of them cut from magazines all over my bedroom walls? Yes, I did.  Did I listen to “that horrible noise” I called music with a passion I would love to revitalize today?  Yes, I did.  But, the choices I made in my youth were mostly influenced by the general environment of the times and my peers.

I was raised in a family which had what I feel were standard American values with a strong Chicano influence.  My Mom was Mexican, and one of the first Latinas to receive a full nursing scholarship at San Bernardino Community College.  She was charismatic, beautiful, smart and fiercely independent for her time.  My father died when I was a little girl and the man I know as “Dad,” who she married when I was five, is hard-working, kind and loving.  My Mom was the love of his life and he was proud to let anyone know how fortunate he felt to have caught such a prize.  I am the oldest of four, and we were all taught strong work ethics, good manners, respect for elders and pride for our homes.  Mom always said, “We may not have the fanciest clothes, but they are always clean and pressed.”  Looking back, I know they loved me and did the best they could for us.  They built the foundation of who I am today and they actively participated in making that foundation strong. Even with this great upbringing I made the conscious decision to be a wild child.

So, what is the point of this rant?  It does not matter what the stars are doing, and it does not matter what we do as parents.  Our children are going to make choices that are not great; it’s part of the learning process. As parents, all we can do is hope we built a good foundation so our kids don’t make as many bad choices as we did.  If we raise our kids to think independently and give them the skills they need to make good decisions, we can worry a little less. If you really think any of these toking celebrities has more influence over your babies than you do, maybe it’s time to ask yourself just why that is.  Maybe it’s time to point out these celebrities have worked hard to get where they are.  Many of them have started charities and foundations to give back to their communities.  Maybe it’s time to focus on that.  Most importantly, we need to raise our children to believe they can talk to us about anything at all and we won’t freak out. Then, we need to be honest.  It’s our only hope.

“It does not matter what the “stars” are doing, and it does not matter what we do as parents.  Our children are going to make choices that are not great; it’s part of the learning process.”

Cannabis and the Kids

Cannabis and the Kids: How Can Parents Educate Their Children on Cannabis Use?

Cannabis is a plant. An evil, demonic, ambition killing plant that will ruin your life forever, or at least that is what society has been telling us to tell our children for decades. The truth is that there are a great number of parents who use cannabis regularly that are stuck hiding their use of this safe and benign plant for fear of being judged as a bad parent and a failure to their community. Kids are not stupid.  They understand reason and logic, if given the opportunity.

As a parent of two young boys I have a responsibility, as a parent, to raise them to be informed and well thought on all subjects of life, including my appreciation of cannabis. I am lucky, as my children are relatively young, just 5 and 2 years old respectively. By time they become old enough to think about their own cannabis use this may be a much different conversation. But I recently have experienced what it is like for parents to have to confront the reality that they use marijuana and that their kids are not as naïve as they think.

Many parents have a difficult time discussing this topic with their children, as they fear the backlash that can come with admitting to their kids that they have been hiding something for all of these years. My friend has a eleven-year-old son and his partner has three children from a previous marriage ages 13, 17, and 19. In the last couple of years I have had the discussion of when was the right time to have “the talk” with the kids. I am a believer that kids are resilient and can handle most anything if put in the right context. The right context came in the form of mom getting breast cancer. They chose to use that opportunity to educate them on the benefits of cannabis as a medicine and to discuss in depth the safeties and dangers that are associated with cannabis use.

I armed them with the book “It’s Just A Plant” by Ricardo Cortes and a pep talk about understanding that if they did not have this talk with his kids that someone would. Kids are exposed to the culture of marijuana in many forms on television, in songs, and on the Internet. It is silly for a parent to believe that their kid is totally in the dark on the subject. I told them that their kids, especially the older ones, probably knew that something was up, and that hiding in the bedroom and coughing was probably not working like they had hoped. They agreed.

They sat the kids down and let them know that they used cannabis. They explained in depth the benefits of the drug to help mom through her battle with cancer and that as far as drugs went cannabis was very safe. They put into perspective the legal situation surrounding cannabis and instilled into them that it was not good for everyone, but that they chose to use it as adults because they found that the benefits far outweighed the negatives for them personally. The conversation covered the differences between cannabis and other drugs, both legal and illegal, and touched on the fact that it was not okay for them to use until they were adults capable of making a well informed decision on what was best for them.

This conversation was a tough one for these parents to have, as they had the looming issue of split custody, the misinformation that the kids had been taught over the years, and the fear factor to overcome. But in the end, what they found was that having this important dialogue with the kids about their own experiences allowed them to discuss more freely with the kids the experiences of their own life. The older ones became more honest about their confrontations with drugs in their own lives and were open to discussing how they made choices to try or not try drugs that they came in contact with, including alcohol and tobacco. There was a sense of honesty that came about that they now would not trade for the world. They no longer have to hide in shame the fact that they enjoy cannabis and their kids no longer worry why mom and dad feel the need to hide things from them.

When dealing with cannabis and children it should be treated like all other drugs and kept securely locked away where a child does not have access to it. Just like we have learned to keep our prescriptions, our liquor cabinets and our carton of cigarettes out of harm’s way, cannabis should be no different. Kids will be kids and we, as parents, have an obligation to ensure that our child is not experimenting with drug use before their time. We must set that example and ensure that kids understand clearly that it is not okay for them to use cannabis, just because we do. Someday, when they are grown, that is a choice they will have to make for themselves and all we can do is educate them on the facts and hope that they make the choice that is best for them.

My opinion is that as children become older and begin reaching the age where you think they suspect your cannabis use anyway, it is wiser to reach out and discuss honestly the reasons you use cannabis and dispel the fearful and fictional myths that society has created about cannabis. Only a parent can make that choice with their children, but that kid is going to find out one day about cannabis and it is up to you to decide if you want that information to come from you or from a stranger. We must begin to stop the lies by educating our children to be more understanding and informed about cannabis. The children are the future and what we say to them today can and will make a difference for tomorrow.

Some of our objectives

Our objectives are simple.

  • To end cannabis prohibition
  • To promote the responsible use of cannabis by parents who find cannabis a better alternative to alcohol and toxic pharmaceuticals
  • To advocate for the research and advancement of cannabis medicines
  • To end the practice of mass incarceration that targets poor and minority communities and destroys families
  • To be a voice of reason in the conversation of legalizing marijuana
  • To dispel the myths and lies created by prohibition propaganda
  • To destroy the stigmas associated with cannabis use and educate society on why cannabis is a better option for many parents

We are currently developing a comprehensive list of objectives our group hopes to work to accomplish. Do you have any great ideas you believe we should focus our energies towards?

What is Parents 4 Pot?

Great question. Parents 4 Pot is an organization being developed to give a voice to people who are parents that use cannabis, the parents of children who need medical cannabis, and the parents of children who have been unjustly made criminals by this failed prohibition. We are joined by our friends, family, and supporters in the community to speak up for the rights of parents who choose cannabis as an alternative.


We are currently developing a website that will become central to our mission in education and providing a safe space for parents to come together for this cause. Our first phase is under way in garnering support and interest from the community. We have been excited at the rapid growth on our Facebook page. The next phase is Board development. We will be sending out a fun and inquisitive questionnaire to folks who are interested in leadership positions in the organizations. Many prominent activists who are also parents have expressed interest in joining the fight, so we are looking forward to a Board of talented individuals who are focused on the common goal of ending prohibition and returning cannabis to its rightful place in our society.


We will then develop direct action events in areas to challenge the status quo and give a voice to those who believe cannabis is a better choice for us, and/or our children. It is no longer okay for society to treat us as lesser citizens, violate our privacy, and undermine our parenting because we choose to use a safe, enjoyable, and helpful plant. We are likely better parents than many because one of the positive attributes of cannabis is its calming properties, and if you have a six and nine-year-old son who are at one another’s throats all day taking the edge of with cannabis, as compared to the pills or booze a lot of parents opt for because they are “legal,” is a far better option for many.


We will look for regional groups to attack policy on the local level by being present and vocal at local meetings and in media concerning cannabis regulation. We will appoint state coalitions that can organize and lobby state officials who are considering or implementing cannabis programs. We will work as a group nationally to advance the issue in congress and with the Justice Department to ensure cannabis users are treated equally and fairly as citizens.


We are neighbors, friends, family members and the guy who works at your local Starbucks. We are not criminals, and we certainly are not bad parents. We will no longer stand for anything less than respect.